I´ve been wanting to write an IVF blog for a while, but it never seemed to be the right time.
My first son was totally unplanned, but very much wanted, and despite horrific morning sickness (which never occurred in the morning but literally all day) my pregnancy was pretty easy.
When I fell pregnant two years later I was a nervous wreck. Oliver had been such a difficult baby and toddler and I wasn´t sure I was ready for even more sleepless nights (Oliver didn´t sleep through the night until he was four!!)
When I then miscarried at three months, I was devastated and in total shock. It had never even occurred to me that I could miscarriage. Me, young, fertile, with a healthy son.
Having taken so long to brave the decision of baby number two, it took me a further year and a half to get over my loss, move on and try again.
Time went by and nothing happened. I charted, I changed my diet, I went to one Gynecologist after another but the answer was always the same, ” You´re young, just give it time.”
It´s the most frustrating response in the world when everyone who is around you and ten years older is pregnant after a month, and here you are, in your mid twenties and nothing is happening month after month.
I´d just about given up hope when I went back to England for a holiday last August and was then thrilled to find out I was finally pregnant. It wasn´t to be. At 5 weeks I was told I was having an ectopic pregnancy, and was rushed in to surgery to have my fallopian tube removed.
My world caved in again. I needed six weeks to get back walking and was told by one expert to wait a year before trying and to accept that it may well happen again. I went back to my regular Gynecologist, who knew how much I wanted a baby and told him like it was. ” Yes I know I´m 28 and that´s young, yes I know pregnancy can take a long time, but this is my body, my time and my life, so I need a straight answer. How long will it take me to get pregnant, what are my chances and what do you recommend, because otherwise I will be going for IVF even if you ALL say it´s unnecessary.”
He laughed a lot and then said, “You´ve only got one tube, you´ve got polycystic ovaries, your husband is 39 and you have had two miscarriages. You can try for another three years and maybe get nowhere which is what any Gynecologist would recommend you do at your age, or you can go get IVF and save yourself a lot of heartbreak, stress and further miscarriages.”
I broke down and cried. Not because it was bad news, but because it had taken me years to get an honest answer.
I wasted no time and got an appointment with an IVF clinic, who after checking my ovarian store (how many eggs you have left) diagnosed me as pre-menopausal due to such a low egg count. This is something I NEVER would have found out from my normal Gynecologist. I would have waited a further year of trying to even get that result. Bottom line, I needed to do IVF to be in with a chance of having more kids.
Since I have started my IVF treatment I have been shocked about the lack of information there is out there and by the amount of young people who are under going IVF. I have a VLOG all about my IVF journey here if you want to check it out so far.
So for anyone going through infertility issues please don´t give up and for anyone who is going through IVF, you are not alone and there´s nothing to be ashamed of. (Yes, I have actually had people tell me that IVF is unnatural or that it is wrong!)
Good luck Ladies whatever your situation